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Are you struggling with signs of child autism, ADD or ADHD (attention), ODD (oppositional defiant disorder), bipolar, Asperger’s and PDD-NOS (pervasive developmental disorder – not otherwise specified)?
you and your child are probably frustrated because so much has not.
You’re probably worried about the child’s future, and devices.
If the child is very angry and aggressive and is constantly challenging your every word, you have been hurt and even angry, the parents should not be so hard
Here’s the good news :. While children’s behavioral problems may seem complex, the solutions are quite simple
Here’s why you’re stuck :.
Built in the condition of the child is a parent-child relationship destroyer that you can not stop until you understand the child’s condition completely. Not what the books say. Not matter what studies show.
But what has this condition actually means to your child. How he or she interprets everything you do and say. It is completely different from what you intend.
, which explains the disconnect between loving your intentions and will of the child to work. And the underlying reason is as astonishing as the solution.
There is no way that you would guess it. So you can forgive you, now. It’s not your fault.
Now you know why you’re stuck, let’s talk about what works.
1. Understand what your child really needs so that you can give it. Children with ADHD, ODD, Aspergers, and PDD-NOS and autism are easily emotionally overwhelmed. Therefore it is important to be even tempered, especially if the child is not.
You need to meet the special needs of the child, including the need for a visual reward system, his need to learn the proper emotional expression, and his need for values and skills training.
2. adopt new ways of talking and working child understands and respects. Your child has a short attention span. So you need to learn how to speak in six seconds bit. Long talking bores him and causes him to find disrespected. You also need to learn new gestures to replace those innocent gesture you use probably all day to inflame angry children.
3. Use simple tools that restore the cooperation of the child and restore order in your home. These tools help you to encourage your child to improve his behavior and win the praise and attention.
The most important tool is a visual reward system, also called a behavior chart or star chart. Without it, you’re stuck with begging, bribing, and threatening-they do not. The secret here is to find a reward system that is easy to use.
4. Preparation child with values and skills to succeed at home and at school, and make friends. He can not learn these values and skills by observing others. Short attention span of his will not allow it.
He needs you to teach him basic values, including honesty, love and responsibility. Then he will be ready to learn simple value-based skills, for example, to tell the truth, sharing, and how to take care of themselves and their belongings. He also needs to learn social skills, for example, to introduce themselves and talk on the phone. Without social skills training, your child will lack the ability to develop lasting and meaningful relationships.
You can solve this
It sounds easy it is, with the right guide. It is much easier and less frustrating than repeatedly trying, struggling, and failing. I invite you to use these tips to build your relationship with your child, and connect to a happier family times.
Copyright (c) 2008 Debra Sale Wendler
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